The Inner Child is a Grumpy Old Man

What do you express in your life, your Inner Child or a Grumpy Old Man?
Do you recognize yourself?

Without disparaging anyone, especially the elderly, whom I respect with all my heart. Although there are some “grumpy old men,” most elderly people are affable and full of wisdom.

So, what we are getting at is that everyone talks about the “inner child,” our true “self,” defining it, describing it, as an innocent being of pure light, the divine essence within us, who we really are.

The inner child is located in our Tan-tien or “Core Star”, which is the seat of our divine spark of unconditional love. Indeed, it is, but the path back home is not easy.

In the process of healing (the way back home, to ourselves), we will meet three grumpy old men, three wounded children.

Your Inner Child Suffers from Pain, Trauma and Frustrations
. Do You Recognize Yourself?

Have you ever thought about why we distance ourselves from ourselves, from our inner child, or why are we distanced? Why would we need to distance ourselves from ourselves and why do we do it?

Society, culture, religions, our parents, first deceive us into believing that things must be a certain way for them to be right, for us to do well in life, for us to be someone and succeed, and then they fill us with "no's", fears and impossibilities, which do not allow us to achieve those things, to be those ways, and even less to "succeed in life" to become "someone".

The child raised, not in a positive/negative duality, but rather in a negative unity, learns to interpret a world in a way that will be cruel to himself.

Traumas do not exist if we are not taught to suffer traumas. The same happens with sorrows or frustrations. A negative upbringing causes sorrow, traumatism and frustration. Unconditional love is not taught, nor is the child educated to live with love, the only thing that would prevent any kind of suffering.

Not to mention the psychological, sentimental and emotional abuse that the child may suffer.

Understand that your Inner Child is Sick. Heal Your Life
Do You Recognize Yourself?

The grumpy old man or "sad inner child" will rebel against whoever wants to love him unconditionally because what he believed to be love abandoned him. In this case, the child may not have felt sufficiently loved, perhaps abandoned by who he believed loved him or perhaps he thought he was not worthy of being loved. We all have emotional deficiencies. The emotionally wounded inner child will struggle between love, fear, hate, interest, distrust, jealousy.

The "second grumpy old man" is the traumatized child who got upset when what he did at that moment or what happened to him was "something bad." Not being up to the circumstances, to the expectations of the parents, or just being traumatized because he has been educated to do so, creates a child with complexes full of shame, fears, insecurities. This child compares himself with others and will use vanity, arrogance, pride as masks, to pretend to be who he thinks he should be according to the education instilled by his parents. He is really a failed child who lives looking for ugliness, failures, errors, mistakes in others, to feel better about himself, and the worst thing is that he becomes a completely selfish being.

You still have time. Don't settle for being a grumpy old man or woman

The "third grumpy old man" is a frustrated and therefore angry child. Repeated disappointments caused by those he thought loved him, and a method that may have worked for him once by taking advantage of his parents' weaknesses, such as a tantrum, create an aggressive child full of mistrust who, when he does not get what he wants, becomes aggressive. A child who kicks and screams to get what he wants.

So, to find your inner child you must first understand those three grumpy old men, accept them, heal them, re-educate them, and above all, love them unconditionally.

Remember that we all have a little grumpy old man inside us.

Damian Alvarez

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