Loving you is putting on the first, the second, and the third you. Valuing yourself for who you are and not for what you have or don't have. Nobody is better than you, or all the same, or if not, you, the best. Look at everything you have, how wonderful you are. Loving yourself is sending positive thoughts, feelings and emotions to yourself.
Your higher self is used when you are yourself, when your thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions transcend you for the good of humanity, and you do not live selfishly. That's it, that's your "higher self", there is no more. Your higher self is you, free from fears, prejudices, taboos, erroneous teachings, etc., that is, love, as God created you.
If you want guidance, then my advice is that you just let your life flow for the moment until you feel better, then you make a list of goals with things you want to achieve in life, no fantasies, no illusions, or anything that It may depend on other people but things that you must achieve for yourself. The list of goals will make you know where to go, do not let anything stop you and you will achieve everything you set your mind to, but be careful, you will have to achieve it with love, then you will be happy. And don't tell me now, how do you love yourself? You love being yourself. How do you get to be yourself? Well, freeing you from everything that has been instilled in you, from all those prejudices, preconceived ideas of how this and that has to be. It exists, just like a bird, be happy. Nothing and nobody will bring you happiness just living with love,
Damián Alvarez at http://sistemasanaciontinerfe.blogspot.com/
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