True friendship

True Friendship is Above Circumstances

True friends are not those who are with you through good times and bad (another interesting myth), but those you love, regardless of whether they are with you or not. I give an example of a good friend of mine, let's call her Loli, who appears and disappears from my life as if by magic, and every time I see her it's as if we had never been apart, as if time had not passed. My relationship with Loli is a mature, natural, sincere relationship, where she can be herself and I can be myself, without reproaches, without interests. In fact, when we see each other we don't tell each other our problems but we talk about the good things in life without taking into account diseases, family deaths, economic, political or environmental crises, etc. That is friendship, that is a relationship based on love.

What I mean by all this is that most human relationships are interest based, need based, fear based and not love based. Relationships out of necessity are pathetic, relationships out of love magnify man.

True Friendship is Waiting with Open Arms
for the one who may never come back

The fear of being alone, the fear of needing, the fear of getting sick, the fear of aging, the fear of impoverishment, and many other fears, set the pattern to follow to establish relationships based on interest, and no matter how much it is believe, they must know that these are not friendships, but hypocrisy (perhaps unconscious, perhaps conscious). I know for a fact that many people do like the Eskimos: They bury food under the ice during their journeys to have food on the way home. I know for a fact that many people relate to others just to have someone to turn to in times of misfortune and/or need. That's not friendship, that's not love.

You can be friends with your mother, your father, your son, your partner, your neighbor, your partner, but not because they are your relatives or relatives but because you love them. If they love you too, then you will be their friend too, but not necessarily.

Damian Alvarez

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