Loving you is putting the first, the second, and the third you. Value yourself for who you are and not for what you have or do not have. No one is better than you, or all the same, or if not, you, the best. Look at everything you have, how wonderful you are. Loving you is sending positive thoughts, feelings and emotions to yourself.
Your higher self uses it when you are yourself, when your thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions transcend you for the good of humanity, and you do not live selfishly. That's it, that's your "higher self", there is no more. Your higher self is you, free from fear, prejudice, taboos, erroneous teachings, etc., that is, love, as God created you.
If you want guidance, my advice is that you just let your life flow for the moment until you feel better, then you make a list of goals with things you want to achieve in life, no fantasies, no illusions, nothing that can depend on other people but things that you must achieve for yourself. The list of goals will make you know where to go, do not allow anything to stop you and you will achieve everything you set out to do, but be careful, you will have to achieve it with love, then you will be happy. And don't tell me now how she loves herself? She loves herself being yourself. how do you get to be yourself? Well, freeing yourself from everything that has been instilled in you, from all those prejudices, preconceived ideas of how this and that has to be. It exists, just like a bird, be happy. Nothing and no one will bring you happiness only living with love,
Damian Alvarez
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